Tuesday, June 22, 2010

I need a writing coach

Tonight, we're having our 3rd (of 6 or 7) meeting with our rabbi to discuss our wedding. Our homework was to write letters to each other about why we want to marry the other, and not share them but make them so that there's nothing in there that our rabbi would be uncomfortable reading. We've had 3 weeks, and I'm got just over a page of stream of consciousness rambling, or 2/3 of a page of bullet points. Yeah. Ask me to write an essay on a literary work, symphony, movie, etc. and I'll give you a 5-7 page essay with sub headings and footnotes, but ask me to write about my feelings and I'll clam up and get stuck. Oh well, I'll knock something out, but I feel kinda badly that I haven't put more time and effort into this (though I'm not entirely sure it would have helped).

I wonder what he's going to do with our letters. I'm sure it has something to do with gleaning personal details to talk about during the wedding ceremony (which is why I want it taped, I want to be able to actually listen and hear what he has to say, because I think I'll just be a flighty/bouncy ball of emotional giggles on our wedding day).

(source)


Eeep. Our other homework was to call and try and make an appointment with one of the two counselors the rabbi recommended. He wants us to meet with a pre marital counselor at least once or twice, though we've been reading through the pre marital counseling coaching books from URJ and haven't found anything to provoke any concerning thoughts. I kinda wish it did though, then we'd at least have something to go to the counselor with and say "This is what we'd like you to help us work through," instead of "Hi, I think we're pretty much the perfect person for each other and our rabbi wants you to confirm that."

No comments:

Post a Comment